Dare Ya – pt1
Saturday Day 1, patient… do not use any negativey communications… I did not speak negativly to him today
Sunday Day 2, kind… make an unexpected gesture of kindness… cleaned all the trash out of his car
Monday Day 3, selfless… buy something for your that says u were thinking of him… got his a post card at the bus station
Tuesday Day 4, thoughtful… ask how you can meet a nees and fulfill … I asked but he said he had everything he needed so I just listened to him talk bout his stuff only
Wed Day 5, cherishes … contact mid-day w no ajenda but to ask how are you… waited till after work at 5 and made the call then he called to talk to me at 9p
Thurs Day 6, not rude… ask him 3 things you do that make him uncomfortable w/o replying in any way…. his reply was no interrupting/justifing, stay focused, don’t pick my skin
Fri Day 7-Beleives in the best… spend 5 min w 2 pc paper on one write his positive attributes on the other write the neg. Hide the two in seperate places and thank spouse throughout day for his positive attributes… didn’t do tjis Friday, am doing it today- Saturday.
Sunday Day 8 – Not Jelly! … burn the neg list and compliment him on recent successes esp when feeling jelly bout anything n him… oh boy! Time to let go of Malibu style worrying! Get gone green envy monster! I rebuke you… really had no issue with this today. Interesting developments I heard that the Malibu was jealous of me I didn’t persist into questioning, I just stated wide jealousy is silly. Oh yeah score one for me!
Sunday … Somehow I keep missing days its Monday and I’m on day 9, Monday – greet w love… 1peter 5:14. Decide howbto greet yours w love when he comes in the door today. do it with enthusiasm! … okay I’m not going to meeting with the kiss cause we’re at his parents. I decided I’m going to say how great was your day today and smile.
Day 10- Tuesday, unconditional Romans 5:8 … do something unconventional for your mate today. Something that shows you and him that you love him Just out of the sheer joy of it… I dunno what the heck to do. I guess I could jus listen w/o comment and don’t force intimacy. (Though I am afraid of making him feel neglected!) I’ve already done some of the suggestions yesterday but they are ordinaries (laundry, desserts, backrub, etc)
Day 11 Wednesday – cherises, eph 5:28 … I rubbed his feet on the bus ride home
Day 12 Thursday -philp 2:4, lets the other one win… I’ve been practing this all weekend but not so much with the telling that I’m giving in go them, kinda seems like a righteous proclamation somehow… he leaves in the morning for a funeral of the wife of his bestman frm 2002. He’s going with his ex… this is hard work!
Day 13… fights fair, mark 5:13… Monday … estb healthy rules of disagreement … as suggested I’m gonna write my rule book and share it tonight if he’s up for it. When getting heated: 1. Say ok and don’t interrupt. 2. No need to explain the answer to ‘ I dunno why you always …” 3. Awknowledge his complaint and state what I don’t agree with. 4. Leave stuff out re the past (even yesterday!) 5. If the name Jessica comes up, discontinue engaging conversation. 6. Let go of immediate desire to resolve issue. 7. No get-backs!
Day 14 Purposefully neglect an activity you would normally do so you can spend quality time with your spouse. Eccl 9:9… i was gonna write lesson plans while he watches the game this afternoon, maybe I’ll just sit by him n refill the munchies plate as needed? So it’s not even noon yet in here already invited me out to watch the game I’m glad I made the decision I did so I don’t have to be upset about not getting my things done
Day 15 1st Peter 3:7 choose a way to show honor and respect that is out of your normal routine… Gonna make an effort to stay up regardless of how late he is working tonight n give him15 minutes of back rubin time.
Day 16 3 John 2. Begin praying for your spouses heart. I cannot seem to get past this day… in another devotion I’m doing the teacher challenges us to pray and meditate on one thing for a week before moving on. I get there n then i feel like i should pray for him jus a little longer. I guess that is not fair to this study though so let me continue. …
Day 17 – Proverb 17:9 he who covers over an offense promotes love, but who repeats the matter separates friendship… gaurd ur mates secrets pray for them n resolve to love despite these issues making sure to really listen to his struggles. .. oh yea. Check. On the daily, although the first part is hard the next word is pray then listen. That maybe i could do more too? Sometimes i fear i would listen for a whole year n he wouldn’t say anything. (But I’m really missing him today)
Day 18 Proverbs 3:13 love seeks to understand… prepare a special dinner, determine to have a pleasant evening… it was quiet but nothing negative!
Day 19 1 john 4:7 – love is impossible. Review, realize that you need god to b able to love… k…
Day 20 Romans 5:6. Love is Jesus. Dare to take god at his word. Pray letting him kno u kno u are a sinner, he’s forver changed that and ask him to change ur heart and save you by his grace. Oh how many times i go back to this prayer. Is anything really changing? Am i getting any better at loving? Or accepting whatever love is out there? Do i see it, feel it, kno it? And if i can’t feel it can i be happy w just knowing it IS there? Open the eyes of my heart lord!
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